Writing a Eulogy for a Funeral
Capture the essence of the person. What was their character? What was their spirit? What legacy have they left?
The eulogy can contain the facts about that person's life - their family details and working life - but you are seeking to inspire those who are listening to reflect and learn from the life of the person who has died so that they can go on to live life at their most full, to love and also to forgive others more freely, if necessary.
Thank people for coming and for cards, letters, flowers and kind gestures.
What did he/she love doing?
What did the person teach you? What were their values?
Include some funny stories.
Include some quotations:
“The idea is to die young as late as possible.”
“What you leave behind is what is woven into the stuff of other men’s lives.” Pericles.
“The song is ended, but the melody lingers on.” Irving Berlin
“The pain passes, but the beauty remains.” Pierre Auguste Renoir
“It’s hard to turn the page when you know someone won’t be in the next chapter, but the story must go on.”
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” Dr Seuss
If the person had a faith, interweave religious beliefs into their way they lived their lives. For example:
We were taught to love thy neighbour as thyself. Everyone was a neighbour to (person’s name) – nurses, shopkeepers, delivery drivers… he treated everyone with love and respect.
Remember that no-one is perfect! We all have our foibles and you can acknowledge someone’s stubbornness, for example, through humorous examples or through a link to a choice of song, such as ‘My Way’!